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Job Recommendation - Risky Business of Reputation

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK February 28, 2020

In our life, we would have crossed the situation where we would have sought a Job Recommendation or Referred someone for some job either in our same office or through our Network. Earlier, it was awesome stuff and we would have carried a Pride of being an ambassador of our organisation or company. Alike everyone I too was in the same bowl of floating cotton until recently. Mostly I use to refuse to Recommend or Refer anyone, which might be because I mostly hate being quickly desi or Indian. I firmly believe that if someone is deserving or needy the person associated will identify and push them up for that position. Though it might be hurting many in the recommendation scheme, the backstabbing moments will collapse the entire structure, recent expensive learning thought me this. From India, I had someone who assumed could be a potential candidate for a Finance segment position. I was serving the financial institution as a consultant and thought this candidate from India would be a d

The Banking “M-Word” & CCD VGS Ending

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK August 01, 2019

These days people communicate a lot and lot which we couldn’t even imagine the extent of the conversation. The “M Word” is one of the very important conversations which we need to speak about and most of the people including the major subset of couples don’t discuss on this part. The recent ending of the Cafe Coffee Day founder VG Sidhartha is also into the loop with this if we read his adieu note to the BoD of CCD . Even VGS could have easily sorted the financial demand very quickly if he had strong support emotionally. Though he was surrounded with tons of people, he was alone internally which every Entrepreneur could feel at least once in their life. Last week while I was in the UK, I co-chaired a Financial Event of a Big Four bank in London. The floor was shared by two of us including the Vice President Commercial of the Bank which is promoting the “M Word” concept in the UK. I really enjoyed the conversation with her as it was the very first time we speak out about it. I

San Francisco & Los Angeles, California - 18th State Visit of the United States of America

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK July 16, 2019

San Francisco , my visit to 18th State of the United States of America was one of the most important ones and had an extraordinary impact than other state visits, be it personal, official or diplomatic. SF in California was into my bucket list for a long time for various reasons. But never had an option to visit due to my complicated and congested schedules. After becoming Student, I had a surplus of time to explore cities. I had a Public Policy Conference at San Francisco and wanted to use my weekend exploring the city. Luckily, I had a college alumnus and friend who was very welcoming me to San Francisco for a long time, and we were in the same wavelength. Planned the Conference and a short trip around SF and other areas. Since a long time, he is definitely a well-organised trip planner, and I requested him to make it out for my visit, which was admitted immediately by him. And, I was pretty confident that while roaming with him, I can have surplus Indian cuisine or other safe

Indian Diplomacy – The Art of Protocol

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK July 01, 2019

Diplomacy is carried out by a Diplomat, and a Diplomat is a one who exhibits Diplomacy! Sounds crazy? Yes, we are such! Diplomats aren’t intelligent people, but they are a step ahead of Intellectuals and Smarts. The inspiration comes from various sources, for me, it was from Charles Maurice de Talleyrand-Périgord, a French Diplomat. Ok, how does it feel when you are being addressed as a Diplomat. Initially, I didn’t admit to being addressed as Diplomat because I strongly believed that one should be Diplomatic enough to be addressed such. It took almost 4.5 years to get into the primary level elevation. People may have different opinions and ideas about a Diplomat. Oh! Yeah, PEOPLE means a more extensive set of definition. Read more….

Attachment & Detachment – Being Adult

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK June 16, 2019

Attachment is clinging to anything you believes is needed for your survival and pleasure. Attachment is the source of all our pleasures now. We are attached to our friends, to our relatives; we are attached to our intellectual and spiritual works; we are attached to external objects so that we get pleasure from them. What, again, brings misery but this very attachment? We have to detach ourselves to earn joy. If only we had the power to detach ourselves at will, there would not be any misery. That man alone will be able to get the best of nature, who, having the power of attaching himself to a thing with all his energy, has also the power to detach himself when he should do so. The difficulty is that there must be as much power of attachment as that of detachment. There are men who are never attracted by anything. They can never love, they are hard-hearted and apathetic; they escape most of the miseries of life. But the wall never feels the misery, the wall never loves, is never hurt

Birthday Celebrations - Being Adult

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK May 29, 2019

Celebrating one's birthday is a unique event that's meant to be shared with loved ones. Birthdays are just like seasons, most of them welcome with open arms, and others may take a little warming up to. But to mark a milestone, we should be doing something with favourite people in one room to reminisce about the past year and coming year. A typical birthday party for an adult consists of family and friends and usually involves a cake, birthday card, dinner, games, music and much more. To be more specific in India, we expect Mid-Night calls, Surprises, Fun, Wine and many such things from our most loved and favourite peoples. This cannot be limited but endures the partnership and how strong the bonding is existing between people. A call, email, text, or a personal visit to greet them on this special day is almost required as an annual maintenance task of every individual in all the certainties of Family Bonding, Romantic Bonding and Platonic Bonding. Diplomacy Linked with

Appointments Etiquette - Being Adult

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK May 08, 2019

With almost a month of long haul, I am glad to write again. Being a responsible adult is always an important task, and one of the most important ingredients of it is the “Appointments”. There is an etiquette for making and keeping very critical appointments, and most of us miss it. Valuing Time: The value of time becomes more precious as we get busier in life, so when you schedule an appointment with anyone, you need to see it as a valuable commodity. Never intentionally waste that time or treat it without the respect it deserves. If you schedule an appointment, proper etiquette dictates that you keep it. Scheduling: Before giving someone an appointment, it is worth enough to check the calendar/wife/husband/secretary or whoever will be a timekeeper for you. One of the rudest things is not turning up or honouring our words. Busy Moments: We are all busy. Anyone who is not retired or unbelievably rich is busy, and even a lot of retired and remarkably rich people are busy too.

Hypermobility – Sick & Sad darker side of a Traveler

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK March 20, 2019

When people meet me, they ask me this redundant question about travel and most of them express their jealousness on hearing my hypermobility. Elite forms of movement, such as for business, holidays or diplomatic journeys, are largely shown in a positive light in contemporary societies. Although there is unevenness in the portrayal of corporeal mobilities with growing fear over epidemiological threats facilitated through global mobility, negative representations of flight from poverty and persecution and the problematizing of irregular migration, mobility for business and pleasure is typically glamorized and encouraged in more privileged societies. The glamorization of elite mobility is part of broader processes of global capitalist consumption within conditions of neoliberalism, wherein circulation and accumulation within networks are unevenly experienced and materialized. Social capital is increasingly based on one’s power to be mobile and cultivate global networks which are usually

Expectational Trust - Factor of Life

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK March 15, 2019

In our life, we always have expectations and trust in someone or some situations. When it combines together, it gives the blend of Expectational Trust. It differs from person to person and situation to situation how we are attached with the person or situation. When someone breaches this expectational trust, it should be learnt that they are trying to emotionally hack. Technologically, they want us to lower our values and get it happened. I recently remember speaking about this at my book release ceremony which happened at Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia when someone asked about my personal loss because of the smartphone. There are lots of live examples when we go for a restaurant with a friend and if he knows that you missed your wallet, he should pay for it immediately. Should not wait until we ask out for the bill payment. And there are some more worst people to whom even after asking out, they will refuse to pay showing off. They expect us to beg to pay or make some alternat

Do we need to be hurt more to remove someone from our life?

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK February 19, 2019

"Do we need to be hurt more to remove someone from our life?" - This title maybe bit weird for someone but it is the one which plays hugely with one's emotional content. Always February 19 every year is a bit deadly for me and by the chance or other I lose someone either Physically or Emotionally. In 2010, it was missing someone physically from this world, and in 2013 I lost someone emotionally; repeated the same in 2016 and now again in 2019. Is this is the problem with the date, or I am expecting everyone more than anything. Maybe a bit long post (around 18 - 22 minutes and 3000+ words) with real-life incidents. I regret that the time and energy which I spent towards maintaining this friendship has been wasted all these times. I have been continuously attempting to build a bridge, but he has been converting it to be as a Wall. Now the maximum tolerance point is achieved, and it seems I have lost my self-respect heavily in this engagement. When there are numerous f

Commitment is not just a Word, it is an Act

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK February 01, 2019

In the present world, we see many people miss the conduct code by skipping the term "Commitment" assuming it as a word. In reality, it is an act. And this act needs loads of consistent behaviour, and it happens over some time. A strong commitment exhibits an executive leadership skills of an individual through their behavioural consistency. It took me years to understand the difference between Interest and Commitment. In nut-shell, commitment is a connection between our values, intentions and actions over some time. Though it is just a choice of adhering or not-adhering, commitment is just an internal process which one needs to follow. Adding, it is self-expression and not to be influenced or enforced by external agents. Talking to people about five years down the road is hard for them to get their head around, especially for young people who are accustomed to instant gratification. People want success now, and few are willing to be patient. Read more ...

Secret of Success is whom You Marry / Stay Friends

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK January 22, 2019

There is an untold story about the Secret of Success is whom you Marry / stay Friends ! Now, the story is proved by Carnegie Mellon University , USA. Whether we realize it or not, these people influence your entire thoughts and empower your strength visibly and invisibly. Read more...

Graduation Speech / Guest Vietnam & Maldives

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK January 06, 2019

Good Morning Everyone! It is an immense pleasure in being here on the invitation of Prof. Tao. This morning is very special one for me as I was blessed to smell the air of 3 countries in hours, and obviously the controlled air in 1 country. Everyone gets a degree, what makes you proud and captivated is the question of the hour. All that is required at the end of this programme which is never mentioned in the curriculum is that “Human Network”. This network should be well maintained and watered throughout the life even while crossing the difficult steps. Read more at https://blog.kokulakrishnaharik.in/2019/01/graduation-speech-guest-vietnam-maldives/

Characteristics of a Drunk / IP

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK November 26, 2018

Disclaimer: I am a non-drinker! Drinking alcohol with close ones is more important for the self-evaluation. Without addiction, a normal occasional drinking is perfectly fine. Even during those times, it is recommended for a perfect brand without adulteration. I thought of writing all my experiences of being with Drunk and Intoxicated and Intimate Persons. In the United Kingdom and the United States, we use to address them as VIP on first vision. VIP claims to the abbreviation of identification of Visually Intoxicated Person. Here are few of the Characteristics: Read More at: https://blog.kokulakrishnaharik.in/2018/11/characteristics-of-a-drunk-ip/

Bromance over Romance - Privileging the Bromance - A study & Examples

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK November 18, 2018

Young men get more emotional satisfaction out of “bromances”—close, heterosexual friendships with other males—than they do out of romantic relationships with women, according to a small new study published in Men and Masculinities . This study along with a few examples in the reality exemplifies that men need more bromance than romance. Bromances can be important to heterosexual men, and can, in fact, be even more valued than romances. We all have one or two close friendships with whom we share more intimate things without borders and this article is all about it. This article only for men, so girls don't! Just like "Blood is thicker than Water", similar it is "Bromance is stronger than Romance". I have written a few answers in Quora earlier about how the loss of a friend in life affects your performance. We may have many friends, but a "Bro" could be one or two. Calling / Addressing you as "Bro" doesn't mean unless I feel the term with

Women - A most respected Creature - Thoughts for Men

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK November 06, 2018

"Sex is sweet but there is poison in between the legs" Most downfalls of men are caused by MULTIPLE girlfriends. Sex is a spiritual encounter I st and to be corrected, not every girl has a good spirit, some are a demon, some has poison in between their legs. Some are killers and destiny destroyers, be careful. Worst is a man who can't control his sexual urge. A man who can control his sexual urge is a man who can live for many years on earth. 1. Having many girlfriends does not make you a man. It only makes you a womanizer, a cheat, sinner and a boy. 2. A real man has only one woman(wife) in his life. 3. For the fact that you are good in bed does not make you a man. A real man is a man who does not run away from his responsibility but faces it squarely. 4. You don't need to sag your trousers and walk around the street before girls will love you. Infact it is only small boys those sag trousers and it is premature little girls that fall in love with men who sag trous

Graduation Day Commencement Speech @ Sri Lanka

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK September 14, 2018

Reading Time: 4 Minutes 10 Seconds / Speech Time: 9 Minutes 4 Seconds Today, the day of your official transformation from Quantity to Quality carried away by this 9 grams of paper shielded in 140 grams of the holder is going to be a stronger date in your entire life. For most of them, it may be an end card, where for some it would be a beginning. Everyone is comfortable in their timezone; where time is linear and life is never meant to be such. I happened to visit the Keells Supermarket which was just a few meters away from my station this morning. The manager who greeted me was a bit friendly as I was the only customer and I wanted to get some paper packed juices for my breakfast. He was suggesting me few juice packs and directed me to the right section. When I reached that section, I saw different varieties of juices and started the usual Economist way of thinking and started my hunt. I saw a pack being labelled as 30 rupees which usually used to be 200 rupees in my hometown. Was del

Shouldering a Girl for Half-a-Journey to the United Kingdom

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK August 22, 2018

Every Journey in my life counts and my very recent Journey to the United Kingdom was really more impressive and soul-satisfying. Stop Judging me with the above statement. This is my 100th post and if you didn't get me till now, a hard regret for your understanding ability. After a very long-time in-service, I happened to fly in Jet Airways from New Delhi, India to London, United Kingdom. It was a quite long travel for around 9 hours and 10 minutes. Since it was my own money, I flew in Economy Class and got my preferred seat. I got a window seat on the 38th row. A descriptive is shown in the below image, but not the actual seatmap. With last few passengers left behind boarding the aircraft, I arrived at the gate and boarded the aircraft. Was really happy to see that my next seat is empty and frequent travellers can surely feel its pleasure. OMG! The pleasure didn't last long. A mid 20's girl was searching for her seat with a small handbag. She arrived near my seat and claime

Adult friendships are more Responsible & Choosing them Wiser is more Important

By Kokula Krishna Hari - KK August 11, 2018

Have you ever wondered if you have very less number of friends in adulthood than your school or college days? Adult friendships are more responsible in nature and choosing them wisely is important according to me. Don't have more than 10 in number. Than coining them as friends, they should be like your formed family. What a lot of people don’t appear to understand is that the single easiest way to make friends is to show up when it matters — and the single easiest way to lose friends is to, well, not. That sounds obvious, but a pattern I’ve observed again and again among the people in my social circle (a social circle that skews young and urban, to be clear) is that they often don’t have close meaningful friendships. They want them, but they aren’t willing to go out of their way to dedicate time and effort to developing these relationships. Take this scenario. You met someone who seems really cool, and you immediately think you could be good friends. They invite you to hang out aga

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