Kokula Krishna Hari K's

Attachment is clinging to anything you believes is needed for your survival and pleasure. Attachment is the source of all our pleasures now. We are attached to our friends, to our relatives; we are attached to our intellectual and spiritual works; we are attached to external objects so that we get pleasure from them. What, again, brings misery but this very attachment? We have to detach ourselves to earn joy. If only we had the power to detach ourselves at will, there would not be any misery. That man alone will be able to get the best of nature, who, having the power of attaching himself to a thing with all his energy, has also the power to detach himself when he should do so. The difficulty is that there must be as much power of attachment as that of detachment. There are men who are never attracted by anything. They can never love, they are hard-hearted and apathetic; they escape most of the miseries of life. But the wall never feels the misery, the wall never loves, is never ...

In our life, we always have expectations and trust in someone or some situations. When it combines together, it gives the blend of Expectational Trust. It differs from person to person and situation to situation how we are attached with the person or situation. When someone breaches this expectational trust, it should be learnt that they are trying to emotionally hack. Technologically, they want us to lower our values and get it happened. I recently remember speaking about this at my book release ceremony which happened at Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia when someone asked about my personal loss because of the smartphone.   There are lots of live examples when we go for a restaurant with a friend and if he knows that you missed your wallet, he should pay for it immediately. Should not wait until we ask out for the bill payment. And there are some more worst people to whom even after asking out, they will refuse to pay showing off. They expect us to beg to pay or make some...

In the present world, we see many people miss the conduct code by skipping the term "Commitment" assuming it as a word. In reality, it is an act. And this act needs loads of consistent behaviour, and it happens over some time. A strong commitment exhibits an executive leadership skills of an individual through their behavioural consistency. It took me years to understand the difference between Interest and Commitment. In nut-shell, commitment is a connection between our values, intentions and actions over some time. Though it is just a choice of adhering or not-adhering, commitment is just an internal process which one needs to follow. Adding, it is self-expression and not to be influenced or enforced by external agents. Talking to people about five years down the road is hard for them to get their head around, especially for young people who are accustomed to instant gratification. People want success now, and few are willing to be patient. Read more ...

There is an untold story about the Secret of Success is whom you Marry / stay Friends ! Now, the story is proved by Carnegie Mellon University , USA. Whether we realize it or not, these people influence your entire thoughts and empower your strength visibly and invisibly. Read more...

Disclaimer: I am a non-drinker! Drinking alcohol with close ones is more important for the self-evaluation. Without addiction, a normal occasional drinking is perfectly fine. Even during those times, it is recommended for a perfect brand without adulteration. I thought of writing all my experiences of being with Drunk and Intoxicated and Intimate Persons. In the United Kingdom and the United States, we use to address them as VIP on first vision. VIP claims to the abbreviation of identification of Visually Intoxicated Person. Here are few of the Characteristics: Read More at: https://blog.kokulakrishnaharik.in/2018/11/characteristics-of-a-drunk-ip/

Young men get more emotional satisfaction out of “bromances”—close, heterosexual friendships with other males—than they do out of romantic relationships with women, according to a small new  study published in  Men and Masculinities . This study along with a few examples in the reality exemplifies that men need more bromance than romance. Bromances can be important to heterosexual men, and can, in fact, be even more valued than romances. We all have one or two close friendships with whom we share more intimate things without borders and this article is all about it. This article only for men, so girls don't! Just like "Blood is thicker than Water", similar it is "Bromance is stronger than Romance". I have written a few answers in Quora earlier about how the loss of a friend in life affects your performance. We may have many friends, but a "Bro" could be one or two. Calling / Addressing you as "Bro" doesn't mean unless I feel the term with...

Reading Time: 4 Minutes 10 Seconds / Speech Time: 9 Minutes 4 Seconds Today, the day of your official transformation from Quantity to Quality carried away by this 9 grams of paper shielded in 140 grams of the holder is going to be a stronger date in your entire life. For most of them, it may be an end card, where for some it would be a beginning. Everyone is comfortable in their timezone; where time is linear and life is never meant to be such. I happened to visit the Keells Supermarket which was just a few meters away from my station this morning. The manager who greeted me was a bit friendly as I was the only customer and I wanted to get some paper packed juices for my breakfast. He was suggesting me few juice packs and directed me to the right section. When I reached that section, I saw different varieties of juices and started the usual Economist way of thinking and started my hunt. I saw a pack being labelled as 30 rupees which usually used to be 200 rupees in my hometown. Was del...

More than a decade, the real fruit of acquiring a friend was missed in my life. In a friendship trust and respect are the only components, others are not even into the list. The blossoming period of life, the school thought me much in India but failed to teach me life lessons. And, being an Indian Kid, I had been constantly controlled, monitored and directed whom to speak with and whom not to. Not limited to the gender, there was a heavy restriction on the selection and this selection was done by my parents; yes you read it right. To say more about the Indian theocratic society, the 1950 - 1990 parents are more concerned about the Religion, Caste, Color and Social Status. Usually, the wingspans are the cut short for an individual and they fix it with Fevicol artificially. There are millions and millions of factors imposed by the parents and guardians while choosing one friend. This decision of choosing is highly impacted. Do never exclude me from this list, I have been in the same posi...

People possessing this type of personality are absolute love for me! No matter blanketing their gender, there will a free hug from me :-) Transparent Enough: The one who is strong in the decision and ability to communicate it with the fullest level of transparency is a need for me. I have seen people getting behind me and speaking. I don't know what they speak and don't bother about them. But if you want things to be flat, speak infront of me. But, I do! Strong and Firm Decision: Decision making is the biggest art. Those who can make a strong and firm decision as a leader is learned personality. I have seen people who aren't able to make a firm decision, I understand that decisions are highly influential in Asian countries, but still then. But, I do! Hate Small Conversations: Are you one who talk to me small conversation as we speak to customer care? Then, there is no space for you! If you speak with me for less than 15 minutes in the first meeting, mind it; that w...

Indians Life are very interesting. Starting from pushing to choose friends to writing will, nothing happens on their own. Here is a compilation which says about the Average Indian Life. Just born, receives a slap on the butt. Injections and vaccinations. Rubs shit on the body, stinks. Sleeps between parents, ruins their sex life. Thrown into pre-nursery school at the age of 2 years. School interviews, admission. Has to carry the load of a bag like a donkey. Exams, insults, exams, suspension, exam, PTM, tuitions, sports, exams, report cards, exams, warnings, exams, finds true love of life. Schooling over, lover finds someone else in new college. College life, fun, friendships, fests, movies, night outs. No placement, depression, insults, family pressure. Placed finally in an average company with an average profile. Takes parents on a pilgrimage. Purchases Hero Honda Passion, aims for Royal Enfield. Makes a girlfriend at the office. Transporta...

Indian passport holders with a valid American visa or a Green Card will now be eligible to obtain a UAE visa on arrival, as per the decree approved by the UAE Cabinet. The decision to have a simplified visa process is aimed at advancing the UAE-India relations in economic, politics, and trade. It also contributes to achieving UAE’s vision to be the leading country in attracting global tourism. The visa will be valid for 14 days, with a single extension possible for a fee. “Citizens of the Republic of India who are holders of normal passports with a six-month, or more, valid green card or visa issued by the United States of America shall be granted entry visas to the UAE from all ports for a period of 14 days, subject for a single renewal for the same period upon payment of applicable fees,” an official statement said. Lots of queries were present in connection with this. Thought of writing this post to transfer the experience gained in obtaining the VISA. I travelled to Dubai, United A...

[caption id="attachment_387" align="aligncenter" width="1920"] Gandhi Status at Pondicherry Beach[/caption]   Ah, the title maybe slightly grumpy, but it is quite a big reality. Pondicherry (Puducherry) is a Union Territory located near Chennai. Today even most of the kids when we say this name, it turns them magical to enjoy the peaceful, ambient and serene beach environment. Not only limited to this, Pondicherry was a French Colony and you could smell the french fragrances each and every corner of the city. Alongside it is also famous for the Alcohol especially the Port Wine which comes in a wrapper has its own pulling power. For people like me, who don't even drink also this Wine pulls with its sweetness and low alcohol rate. Apart from this wine, there are many brands and types of Alcohol which are comparatively cheaper in Pondicherry putting the list against Chennai, Tamil Nadu or Bengaluru, Karnataka. The weekends are fully invaded by the Touris...

While I was engaged with one of the World's Toughest man for a program and I just begun my last travel with him for that specific visit. It was almost 3 days I had been with him day and night. Quite reserved in the conversations, but am being an ambivert, I started the conversation and it went on well than what I actually imagined about. Moving something personal, that gentleman said, "KK, you aren't having any Good Friends or a Girl Friend both in present and past right?". I was stilled for a minute, and replied him "Yes Sir, you 're right!" The conversation went on and the specific points which impressed me are quoted below: Smart Intellectual Kids like you  Will Never have a Best Friend  Will Never have a Girl Friend Will find it very difficult in finding a Wife Will find it very difficult in managing the Wife He advised me to write this in my diary and you will never ever regret wasting few minutes in recording the above 4 statement anytime f...

Love is one of those things that almost every person on this planet is searching for. Some may get it where most may not get it. And the most important is getting a true love or companionship has been distinct. Some of us want it so badly that we get swept up in the initial stages of romance, blinded by feelings of lust, affection, and desire. There's no better feeling in this world than finding a person who loves you just as much as you love them. But, sometimes we idealise people, rather than letting them just be themselves. And this is because we're searching for our own validation, rather than a genuine, loving bond. Sometimes what we think is love is really just an emotional dependence that we've come to rely on for our own satisfaction and self-worth. Listed below are few signs that your relationship might not be as healthy for you as you think it is: 1. A large portion of your self-worth is derived from your significant other's approval, affection and attention. ...

It has been more than 60 days from my last post, I was thinking to write about various things, but the transition from one position to another is always the complicated one as everyone is aware of. And that too imagine an execution level people transitioning in the Governmental or Non-Governmental is really such painful and a time-consuming one. And the title of the post almost quotes the end point of my cycle at the high-level office. It doesn't mean that I am empty headed now, instead, the platform where I was shining now changes to an another platform. Yes, I am now successfully a free bird, without spy (hope so...) and can move independently after almost 3 years. Do never visualise about being into the Prisons which is being provided by Government; instead was serving the Government. This 3 year is the best period of my life, I could say in a nutshell. The high-level contacts which range to many Solons, Great Reseach Scientists and Professors across the world. But I have to lit...

Home Management is sometimes misunderstood that it's the duty of women. But it is not actually. Here are few questions which needs to be asked before setting up the home or ensuring that your home is compatible enough for your future spouse. Did you have a paying job when you were in high school? Before high school? Do you believe in establishing a family budget? Do you believe in prenuptial agreements? Under what circumstances? Do you believe that a certain amount of money should be set aside for pleasure, even if you're on a tight budget? Do you gamble? Do you have significant debts? Do you pay alimony or child support? Do you prefer urban, suburban, or rural settings? Do you think of your home as a cocoon, or is your door always open? What do you need to feel energised and inspired in your home? Has money ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship? Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship? ...

Asking your spouse about the Pet Preference could be one of the eye-openers for an individual trying to converse. Yes, some are bit fearful, some hate them, some love them and even some try to get legal status for their pets in their family. Are you an animal lover? Do you believe a person should give up his or her pet if it interferes with the relationship? Do you consider pets members of your family? Do you have a dog, cat, or other beloved pet? Have disagreements about pets ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship? Have you ever been jealous of a partner's relationship with a pet? Have you ever been physically aggressive with an animal? Have you deliberately hurt an animal? Is your attitude "Love me, love my dog" [cat; potbellied pig]? Is there any specific pet animal which you prefer to stay away? Coming soon part 5, keep watching!

Always ageing is a factor which appears on the skin leaving a strong traces of love and affection which one possessed during the span. So, this is more important. Are there cosmetic procedures that you regularly undergo? Do you feel that you can have good chemistry with someone who is moderately physically attractive to you, or is a strong physical attraction necessary? Do you have strong preferences about being with a particular physical type? Do you worry about getting old? Do you worry about losing your looks? Has physical appearance or chemistry ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship? How important is it that you always look your best? How important is your spouse's appearance? How much money do you spend on clothing every year? Is weight control important to you? Is your spouse's weight important to you? What do you like and dislike about your appearance? What would your reaction be if your partner were to gain a significant amount of...

Here comes my Part 2 of the art of conversation with your future spouse. Some questions which would be highly interesting for them to answer are here as follows regarding to their friends and their network. Are your friendships as important to you as your life partner is? Do you have a best friend(s)? Do you have a difficult time setting limits with friends? Do you see a close friend or friends at least once a week? Do you speak to any of your friends on the phone every day? Has a partner ever been responsible for breaking up a friendship? Have friends ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship? If your friends need you, are you there for them? Is it important that you and your partner have friends in common? Is it important to you for your partner to accept and like your friends? Keep watching for Part 3!

With the series of my thoughts in my previous series of Seasoning MBA Applications, I was stressing everyone to attempt for the GMAT instead of GRE if they are serious about the MBA. Some of the people turned back that question towards me if I had attempted for GMAT. Well, a good move. I took their question as an important brainstorming one. I wanted to give an attempt, in the meantime, I had no company to discuss it, as my close friend and competitor in this MBA goal has drifted away for some reason. Made my mind to move on! Alike my GRE wanted to give a short turnaround time for my GMAT but a better preparation. Attempting for GMAT is not a simple task, I agree to that. I got the test slot in the United Kingdom for various undisclosed reasons. I exactly had 15 calendar days between the exam and date of registration. Was puzzled about the strategy which I need to follow, the practice mechanisms and my travel planning from India to LHR. Directed my office to make the reservations to LH...