Kokula Krishna Hari K's

Intelligent people with OCD ( O bsessive- C ompulsive  D isorder ) lead a very strange life. If you think you are highly intelligent and have symptoms of OCD it will be a huge handicap throughout the entire course of life. If you don’t have such things but see someone with such symptoms, don’t ignore them. It may sound a bit counterintuitive, but be assured that the experience would be the best. No matter how intelligent the person is, they are still a human being and not a machine! It’s a well-known fact that nobody is perfect. We’re all good at certain things and not so great at others. The smartest kid of the class might not be academically stronger, and I am challenging the case vice versa. I have seen many such cases in my life, why not least, I am seeing myself every day in the mirror and selfies. And, that’s a natural way of balancing the equation. Research indicates that  OCD  sufferers often exhibit high creativity and imagination and above-average  ...

In our life, we would have crossed the situation where we would have sought a Job Recommendation or Referred someone for some job either in our same office or through our Network. Earlier, it was awesome stuff and we would have carried a Pride of being an ambassador of our organisation or company. Alike everyone I too was in the same bowl of floating cotton until recently. Mostly I use to refuse to Recommend or Refer anyone, which might be because I mostly hate being quickly desi or Indian. I firmly believe that if someone is deserving or needy the person associated will identify and push them up for that position. Though it might be hurting many in the recommendation scheme, the backstabbing moments will collapse the entire structure, recent expensive learning thought me this. From India, I had someone who assumed could be a potential candidate for a Finance segment position. I was serving the financial institution as a consultant and thought this candidate from India would be a d...

These days people communicate a lot and lot which we couldn’t even imagine the extent of the conversation. The “M Word” is one of the very important conversations which we need to speak about and most of the people including the major subset of couples don’t discuss on this part. The recent ending of the  Cafe Coffee Day  founder VG Sidhartha is also into the loop with this if we read his adieu note to the BoD of  CCD . Even VGS could have easily sorted the financial demand very quickly if he had strong support emotionally. Though he was surrounded with tons of people, he was alone internally which every Entrepreneur could feel at least once in their life. Last week while I was in the UK, I co-chaired a Financial Event of a  Big Four bank in London. The floor was shared by two of us including the Vice President Commercial of the Bank which is promoting the “M Word” concept in the UK. I really enjoyed the conversation with her as it was the very first time we sp...

San Francisco , my visit to 18th State of the United States of America was one of the most important ones and had an extraordinary impact than other state visits, be it personal, official or diplomatic. SF in California was into my bucket list for a long time for various reasons. But never had an option to visit due to my complicated and congested schedules. After becoming Student, I had a surplus of time to explore cities. I had a Public Policy Conference at San Francisco and wanted to use my weekend exploring the city. Luckily, I had a college alumnus and friend who was very welcoming me to San Francisco for a long time, and we were in the same wavelength. Planned the Conference and a short trip around SF and other areas. Since a long time, he is definitely a well-organised trip planner, and I requested him to make it out for my visit, which was admitted immediately by him. And, I was pretty confident that while roaming with him, I can have surplus Indian cuisine or other safe ...

Diplomacy is carried out by a Diplomat, and a Diplomat is a one who exhibits Diplomacy! Sounds crazy? Yes, we are such! Diplomats aren’t intelligent people, but they are a step ahead of Intellectuals and Smarts. The inspiration comes from various sources, for me, it was from Charles Maurice de Talleyrand-Périgord, a French Diplomat. Ok, how does it feel when you are being addressed as a Diplomat. Initially, I didn’t admit to being addressed as Diplomat because I strongly believed that one should be Diplomatic enough to be addressed such. It took almost 4.5 years to get into the primary level elevation. People may have different opinions and ideas about a Diplomat. Oh! Yeah, PEOPLE means a more extensive set of definition. Read more…. 

Attachment is clinging to anything you believes is needed for your survival and pleasure. Attachment is the source of all our pleasures now. We are attached to our friends, to our relatives; we are attached to our intellectual and spiritual works; we are attached to external objects so that we get pleasure from them. What, again, brings misery but this very attachment? We have to detach ourselves to earn joy. If only we had the power to detach ourselves at will, there would not be any misery. That man alone will be able to get the best of nature, who, having the power of attaching himself to a thing with all his energy, has also the power to detach himself when he should do so. The difficulty is that there must be as much power of attachment as that of detachment. There are men who are never attracted by anything. They can never love, they are hard-hearted and apathetic; they escape most of the miseries of life. But the wall never feels the misery, the wall never loves, is never ...

Celebrating one's birthday is a unique event that's meant to be shared with loved ones. Birthdays are just like seasons, most of them welcome with open arms, and others may take a little warming up to. But to mark a milestone, we should be doing something with favourite people in one room to reminisce about the past year and coming year. A typical birthday party for an adult consists of family and friends and usually involves a cake, birthday card, dinner, games, music and much more. To be more specific in India, we expect Mid-Night calls, Surprises, Fun, Wine and many such things from our most loved and favourite peoples. This cannot be limited but endures the partnership and how strong the bonding is existing between people. A call, email, text, or a personal visit to greet them on this special day is almost required as an annual maintenance task of every individual in all the certainties of Family Bonding, Romantic Bonding and Platonic Bonding. Diplomacy Linked with ...

With almost a month of long haul, I am glad to write again. Being a responsible adult is always an important task, and one of the most important ingredients of it is the “Appointments”. There is an etiquette for making and keeping very critical appointments, and most of us miss it. Valuing Time:  The value of time becomes more precious as we get busier in life, so when you schedule an appointment with anyone, you need to see it as a valuable commodity. Never intentionally waste that time or treat it without the respect it deserves. If you schedule an appointment, proper etiquette dictates that you keep it. Scheduling:  Before giving someone an appointment, it is worth enough to check the calendar/wife/husband/secretary or whoever will be a timekeeper for you. One of the rudest things is not turning up or honouring our words. Busy Moments:  We are all busy. Anyone who is not retired or unbelievably rich is busy, and even a lot of retired and remarkably rich people ...

When people meet me, they ask me this redundant question about travel and most of them express their jealousness on hearing my hypermobility. Elite forms of movement, such as for business, holidays or diplomatic journeys, are largely shown in a positive light in contemporary societies. Although there is unevenness in the portrayal of corporeal mobilities with growing fear over epidemiological threats facilitated through global mobility, negative representations of flight from poverty and persecution and the problematizing of irregular migration, mobility for business and pleasure is typically glamorized and encouraged in more privileged societies. The glamorization of elite mobility is part of broader processes of global capitalist consumption within conditions of neoliberalism, wherein circulation and accumulation within networks are unevenly experienced and materialized. Social capital is increasingly based on one’s power to be mobile and cultivate global networks which are usually...

In the present world, we see many people miss the conduct code by skipping the term "Commitment" assuming it as a word. In reality, it is an act. And this act needs loads of consistent behaviour, and it happens over some time. A strong commitment exhibits an executive leadership skills of an individual through their behavioural consistency. It took me years to understand the difference between Interest and Commitment. In nut-shell, commitment is a connection between our values, intentions and actions over some time. Though it is just a choice of adhering or not-adhering, commitment is just an internal process which one needs to follow. Adding, it is self-expression and not to be influenced or enforced by external agents. Talking to people about five years down the road is hard for them to get their head around, especially for young people who are accustomed to instant gratification. People want success now, and few are willing to be patient. Read more ...

Disclaimer: I am a non-drinker! Drinking alcohol with close ones is more important for the self-evaluation. Without addiction, a normal occasional drinking is perfectly fine. Even during those times, it is recommended for a perfect brand without adulteration. I thought of writing all my experiences of being with Drunk and Intoxicated and Intimate Persons. In the United Kingdom and the United States, we use to address them as VIP on first vision. VIP claims to the abbreviation of identification of Visually Intoxicated Person. Here are few of the Characteristics: Read More at: https://blog.kokulakrishnaharik.in/2018/11/characteristics-of-a-drunk-ip/

Young men get more emotional satisfaction out of “bromances”—close, heterosexual friendships with other males—than they do out of romantic relationships with women, according to a small new  study published in  Men and Masculinities . This study along with a few examples in the reality exemplifies that men need more bromance than romance. Bromances can be important to heterosexual men, and can, in fact, be even more valued than romances. We all have one or two close friendships with whom we share more intimate things without borders and this article is all about it. This article only for men, so girls don't! Just like "Blood is thicker than Water", similar it is "Bromance is stronger than Romance". I have written a few answers in Quora earlier about how the loss of a friend in life affects your performance. We may have many friends, but a "Bro" could be one or two. Calling / Addressing you as "Bro" doesn't mean unless I feel the term with...

Reading Time: 4 Minutes 10 Seconds / Speech Time: 9 Minutes 4 Seconds Today, the day of your official transformation from Quantity to Quality carried away by this 9 grams of paper shielded in 140 grams of the holder is going to be a stronger date in your entire life. For most of them, it may be an end card, where for some it would be a beginning. Everyone is comfortable in their timezone; where time is linear and life is never meant to be such. I happened to visit the Keells Supermarket which was just a few meters away from my station this morning. The manager who greeted me was a bit friendly as I was the only customer and I wanted to get some paper packed juices for my breakfast. He was suggesting me few juice packs and directed me to the right section. When I reached that section, I saw different varieties of juices and started the usual Economist way of thinking and started my hunt. I saw a pack being labelled as 30 rupees which usually used to be 200 rupees in my hometown. Was del...

More than a decade, the real fruit of acquiring a friend was missed in my life. In a friendship trust and respect are the only components, others are not even into the list. The blossoming period of life, the school thought me much in India but failed to teach me life lessons. And, being an Indian Kid, I had been constantly controlled, monitored and directed whom to speak with and whom not to. Not limited to the gender, there was a heavy restriction on the selection and this selection was done by my parents; yes you read it right. To say more about the Indian theocratic society, the 1950 - 1990 parents are more concerned about the Religion, Caste, Color and Social Status. Usually, the wingspans are the cut short for an individual and they fix it with Fevicol artificially. There are millions and millions of factors imposed by the parents and guardians while choosing one friend. This decision of choosing is highly impacted. Do never exclude me from this list, I have been in the same posi...

People possessing this type of personality are absolute love for me! No matter blanketing their gender, there will a free hug from me :-) Transparent Enough: The one who is strong in the decision and ability to communicate it with the fullest level of transparency is a need for me. I have seen people getting behind me and speaking. I don't know what they speak and don't bother about them. But if you want things to be flat, speak infront of me. But, I do! Strong and Firm Decision: Decision making is the biggest art. Those who can make a strong and firm decision as a leader is learned personality. I have seen people who aren't able to make a firm decision, I understand that decisions are highly influential in Asian countries, but still then. But, I do! Hate Small Conversations: Are you one who talk to me small conversation as we speak to customer care? Then, there is no space for you! If you speak with me for less than 15 minutes in the first meeting, mind it; that w...

[caption id="attachment_387" align="aligncenter" width="1920"] Gandhi Status at Pondicherry Beach[/caption]   Ah, the title maybe slightly grumpy, but it is quite a big reality. Pondicherry (Puducherry) is a Union Territory located near Chennai. Today even most of the kids when we say this name, it turns them magical to enjoy the peaceful, ambient and serene beach environment. Not only limited to this, Pondicherry was a French Colony and you could smell the french fragrances each and every corner of the city. Alongside it is also famous for the Alcohol especially the Port Wine which comes in a wrapper has its own pulling power. For people like me, who don't even drink also this Wine pulls with its sweetness and low alcohol rate. Apart from this wine, there are many brands and types of Alcohol which are comparatively cheaper in Pondicherry putting the list against Chennai, Tamil Nadu or Bengaluru, Karnataka. The weekends are fully invaded by the Touris...

Love is one of those things that almost every person on this planet is searching for. Some may get it where most may not get it. And the most important is getting a true love or companionship has been distinct. Some of us want it so badly that we get swept up in the initial stages of romance, blinded by feelings of lust, affection, and desire. There's no better feeling in this world than finding a person who loves you just as much as you love them. But, sometimes we idealise people, rather than letting them just be themselves. And this is because we're searching for our own validation, rather than a genuine, loving bond. Sometimes what we think is love is really just an emotional dependence that we've come to rely on for our own satisfaction and self-worth. Listed below are few signs that your relationship might not be as healthy for you as you think it is: 1. A large portion of your self-worth is derived from your significant other's approval, affection and attention. ...

It has been more than 60 days from my last post, I was thinking to write about various things, but the transition from one position to another is always the complicated one as everyone is aware of. And that too imagine an execution level people transitioning in the Governmental or Non-Governmental is really such painful and a time-consuming one. And the title of the post almost quotes the end point of my cycle at the high-level office. It doesn't mean that I am empty headed now, instead, the platform where I was shining now changes to an another platform. Yes, I am now successfully a free bird, without spy (hope so...) and can move independently after almost 3 years. Do never visualise about being into the Prisons which is being provided by Government; instead was serving the Government. This 3 year is the best period of my life, I could say in a nutshell. The high-level contacts which range to many Solons, Great Reseach Scientists and Professors across the world. But I have to lit...

Home Management is sometimes misunderstood that it's the duty of women. But it is not actually. Here are few questions which needs to be asked before setting up the home or ensuring that your home is compatible enough for your future spouse. Did you have a paying job when you were in high school? Before high school? Do you believe in establishing a family budget? Do you believe in prenuptial agreements? Under what circumstances? Do you believe that a certain amount of money should be set aside for pleasure, even if you're on a tight budget? Do you gamble? Do you have significant debts? Do you pay alimony or child support? Do you prefer urban, suburban, or rural settings? Do you think of your home as a cocoon, or is your door always open? What do you need to feel energised and inspired in your home? Has money ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship? Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship? ...

Charity is one of the most competent stuff where a couple needs to discuss for having a sustainable Financials throughout their lives. How important is it to you to contribute time or money to charity? Which kind of charities do you like to support? How much of your annual income do you donate to charity? Do you feel that it is the responsibility of the haves of the world to help the have-nots? Have attitudes about charitable contributions ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship? Will meet you back in the 6th Part shortly.